‘Tis the season for The Break-Up….

So earlier this week, Sexpert Dan Savage was quoted in this NPR article / broadcast about breaking up during the holiday season…
Then, a friend of mine had the below exchange on her Facebook page.
The question is – How do you handle those awkward relationship issues duing the holiday season?
Everybody’s got an opinion it seems… what do YOU think Erica should do?
Erica W. Ok so i have a problem. i am dating someone but i come to realize he aint ” that guy”. we suppose to spend christmas together but i am at the point where i don’t want to spend money on him. and i want to end it what should i do. Problem is i care about him
Frances J.
okay let me understand you like him but you just dont want to buy him nothing for Christmas
Erica W.
@ frances i like him but i think i need to end it because he has alot of shit with him. and i just feel like i am settlin and i aint havin that. so should i just end it before x-mas or still spend it with him but don’t spend what i was going to spend?
Yesterday at 5:45pm
Maurice B.
Erica W.
@ thank u pleaze, its very hard one minute its like yep. but i just sit back and listen to him. i learn somethin new about him everyday. its crazy
Yesterday at 5:50pm
Devinn L.
I understand u care about him But is it enough that u want to be with him and his shit,get out now before u fall to hard and end up with someone that was only suppose to be in your life temporary
Yesterday at 5:50pm
Erica W.
@ebony u are right. i have to go and get giz a outfit lol. how is liz
Ebone J.
Frances J.
MS. Erica just let the guy know you and him can only be friends nothing more nothing less. If you want to swap gifts thats cool. But dont wait until after Xmas due to the fact you will be sending out mix signals. Let him know up front you care but you rather remain a friend.Just my opinion poo-poo. Pray God knows better than us all
Yesterday at 5:55pm
Erica W.
@ devin its like i new his situation in the beginning but i still feel like i am settling and i aint going lol.
Yesterday at 5:56pm
Kisha D.
well I hope he is not a FB friend, cuz if he is he knows girl! lol
Just be honest with him, the truth will set you free! Most importantly be honest with your self FIRST.
Yesterday at 5:58pm
Katrina L.
Always, always, always be honest.
Yesterday at 6:07pm
Kiana P.
LMAO @ Lee. Yeah that works too. Lol!!!
Yesterday at 6:07pm
Robin F.
You have to really want to make a decision. Then stick to it.
Yesterday at 6:09pm
Gayle W.
Be honest and end it if you ‘re just not that in to him. It’s okay. That’s the whole point of dating, to see if you all fit or not. That is also the point of red flags.
Yesterday at 6:21pm
Erica W.
@ robin he has did somethings that made me say well okay he do listen to what i am saying. he is trying so i don’t know.Lee i had to delete him from my page because he was on some other shit. lookin through my friends list. lookin to see who’s wall i wrote on. he want to add him back so bad. hell to the naw i straight.@gayle i feel you on the dating thing. and its not like i just met him, i have been knowin him for over 15 years.
Yesterday at 6:39pm
Erica W.
lee i just think he is insecure.
Yesterday at 6:55pm
Erica W.
is that what it is.
Yesterday at 7:18pm
Erica W.
like i said earlier i am going to see what he is gettin me. and if it nice then maybe.see i was going to hook him up too i already know what i was going to get then his birthday id the day after xmas. so he betta get it together quick lol
Yesterday at 7:31pm
Lee B.
Rikki F.
That’s hilarious Lydia. Ok E… I say if you KNOW he’s not the one tell him AND keep it movin….if you’re not sure…pray about it and trust your intuition. I KNOW one thing 4 SURE, you’re a great woman, a hard worker, smart and a damn good mom…you deserve your equal!! If he ain’t what it do…he got ta go..he could be distractin u from “the real deal” love you
Shaniece G.
The scary thing is Christmas is coming up he probably know you aint tryna be bothered with him and he probably thinking of ways to grab your attention again……wat if he ask you to marry him….i mean yall known each other for along time and besides he probably feel like yall got history….girl you better end it now cause this can get out of hand in the future…..basicly wat everybody else said.
GingerFly’s Free.99 Cents…
Don’t buy a gift. Remember what Christmas/The Holidays are really about. Maybe make a donation to the needy in his name. But most importantly, have a talk with him about your feelings. Don’t waste time, energy and $$ sending mixed signals that will only cause you more anxiety and complications down the road. Be plainly honest and to the point. If you haven’t sorted out how you feel, tell him that too. A logical, sane man will only understand those terms. The rest will just be seen as hormonal-weird-women-are-too-complicated-mumbo-jumbo.
Any drams that unfolds after that is in his court.